Starting 2018 & Ending My Quarter Life Crisis (hopefully)

Don't worry - this is not going to be some 'new year, new me' bullshit. We're in February now so I kind of feel like I've missed the boat on this one but I'm starting this blog up again and this seems to be a good way to kick it off.

I graduated almost two years ago now and as soon as I finished uni I dove headfirst in to my quarter life crisis. I've been treading water in here ever since, occasionally very nearly drowning in a few too many beers. My overall goal in 2018 is to become a proper grown up and find my way out of this god awful stage of my life. Below are some things I plan to do, that I pray will make my life less tragic.

1. Escape my hometown.

Moving back was just as awful as I expected, but it had to be done. For me the hardest part of coming back is knowing that the majority of my friends are still in Sheffield, where I went to university. Even though I'm not back with my parents it still feels like it has stripped me of my independence. I can't just have a spontaneous night out with my pals anymore it needs to be planned like three weeks in advance. Not only that but someone needs to be willing to let me sleep on their floor. Sleeping on an air bed in someone else's house doesn't really make me feel like I have my life together.


2. Not to get that drunk.

Now I'm not drinking as much as I did at uni I seem to have no idea how to get reasonably drunk. Where on earth is my limit these days? If you see it please let me know so that I can prevent myself from running rings around it. I'm fine with having a few too many and dancing about like a nob but I'd rather not look like an absolute tit every time I go to the pub.

3. Get a new job.

My degree is in Creative Writing and I work in admin at the minute, it is safe to say it is not for me. The people I work with are lovely so I'll be sad to leave them but it is for the best. Invoices and well anything to do with numbers just makes me want to cry. I knew I wouldn't be able to leave uni and morph in to Helen Fielding straight away but I had hoped for something a little more exciting. I was a tad naive...


4. Get married.

So yeah, I'm getting married this October. I know everything I read about being in your early twenties mentions being single, sometimes in a good way, sometimes a bad way. Regardless I'm happily engaged and I'm so not the wedding-organising type. We've got the venue food and registrar sorted and I feel like that doesn't leave much else to do so I'm taking it easy for the time being. This enfuriates my Mum and my Nan but as the mantra goes- It'll be reyt. That said, I should probably send out the save the dates that I made a month ago...

5. Stop comparing myself to others.

Just don't do it, the only thing you get from doing it is a fucking melt down. Since leaving uni so many of my friends have travelled, got the job they always wanted, or done something uber cool. I always cheer them on and I'm dead proud to have friends that are downright fabulous, but I used to get myself down comparing myself to everyone. I'm doing my own thing and the most important thing to remember is you can't do everything at once!

6. Stop making excuses.

Get your arse in gear and just get it bloody done. I have a long commute and it is draining but if I managed to find time to binge watch a series of How to Get Away With Murder in three days then I can't use it as an excuse. I'm sure I can find time to read and write and do something a bit more productive with my time, blogging again is one way I'm hoping to spend it. So please, no one tempt me with crime drama.


This ended up being a lot longer than I had intended but I hope you found it mildly amusing at the very least. If you're going through a quarter life crisis too then good luck to you!